Posts Tagged ‘Vermont’

Battle Cry of the Tiger Mothers

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Saturday, February 5th, 2011

Lanakila campers are never far from gentle guidance, but are encouraged to look within for solutions.

In the last few weeks, much of the blogosphere was reacting, possibly over-reacting to the debut of Amy Chua’s book, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, featured in an article in the Wall Street Journal. If you somehow managed to miss the uproar, Chua’s book is subtitled, “This is a story about a mother, two daughters, and two dogs. This was supposed to be a story of how Chinese parents are better at raising kids than Western ones. But instead, it’s about a bitter clash of cultures, a fleeting taste of glory, and how I was humbled by a thirteen-year-old.”  More than a parenting manual, Battle Hymn is a memoir of Chua’s life as a Chinese-American mother, married to a non-Chinese husband, managing their family’s child rearing according to traditional, and strict, Chinese methods. Among the rules imposed upon Chua’s daughters were the following no-no’s:

  • attend a sleepover
  • have a playdate
  • be in a school play
  • complain about not being in a school play
  • watch TV or play computer games
  • choose their own extracurricular activities
  • get any grade less than an A
  • not be the No. 1 student in every subject except gym and drama
  • play any instrument other than the piano or violin
  • not play the piano or violin. (more…)

Four Generations

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Thursday, January 13th, 2011
Cathy McGrath with her daughters Eliza and Caroline Kissick.

Cathy McGrath with her daughters Eliza and Carrie Kissick.

When Cathy McGrath was a young girl, her extended family gathered at the end of every summer at her grandparents’ home in Danville, Indiana. Two of the older cousins, Betsey and Kevin Geraghty, came straight from Lake Morey, where they’d spend the entire summer at the Aloha Camps. Cathy noticed their simple uniforms, green shorts for Betsey, gray for Kevin, and how their duffel bags smelled somehow of piney woods and water. They seemed to have a song — and a prank — for every occasion. To the young girl, these cousins were “so cool” — perhaps especially because when she looked at them, Cathy could imagine herself in a few years wearing the same green shorts as cousin Betsey, singing the same songs, and joining in the family tradition. (more…)

After the Fire

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Tuesday, December 7th, 2010
Aloha's tradition of campcraft was already strong in 1921.

Aloha's tradition of campcraft was already strong in 1921.

Any parent of a teenage daughter knows how rare it is to glimpse “behind the scenes” in an adolescent’s life. Teens often find it hard to articulate their emotions, especially when they’re stretching their sense of what is possible, or who they are. That’s why we’re grateful to share an extraordinary letter from fourth-year Aloha camper Sarah McGrath.

We wrote here earlier this year about Sarah’s attempt to build a one-log fire, one of the requirements for a Vagabond rank in campcraft. At the end of the summer, she left a note for campcraft head Sarah Sincerbeaux (“Sisterbear”). The counselor had asked the teenager to describe her reasons for attempting the Vagabond rank, the third highest of four campcraft ranks, and what she learned from the experience.

Sincerbeaux shared the note with us at The Aloha Foundation. With Sarah McGrath’s permission, we now share it with you.
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Growing Up Digital, But Taking Summers Off.

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Monday, November 22nd, 2010
Children at Vermont's Aloha Camps thrive on summer days unplugged from cell phones, ipods and computers.

Children at Vermont's Aloha Camps thrive on summer days unplugged from cell phones, iPods and computers.

Parents of today’s ‘tweens and teens consistently wrestle with the omnipresence of technology in their child’s life. As a force for both productivity and time-wasting, parents too struggle with increased dependence on smart phones, laptops, and MP3 players, simul-taneously attempting to set reasonable limits for their children. High school students, who log on to access homework and study guides posted by teachers on class websites, are quickly tempted to move on to Facebook, YouTube or other popular online sites instead of delving into classwork.  Even adults, raised without electronic distractions,  find them- selves struggling to set limits on their own web browsing at work when they find it competing with professional obligations.

In Sunday’s New York Times, Matt Richtel, Pulitzer Prize-winning author and an expert on the effects of today’s technology on developing brains, reports on teens’ increasing inability to remain focused on a task in the face of persistent digital interruptions.  As one of the high school students acknowledges, “’I know I can read a book, but then I’m up and checking Facebook,’ he says, adding: ‘Facebook is amazing because it feels like you’re doing something and you’re not doing anything. It’s the absence of doing something, but you feel gratified anyway.’

He concludes: ‘My attention span is getting worse.’” (more…)

The Young Women’s Leadership Expedition Helps Girls Leap To Their Full Potential.

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Thursday, November 11th, 2010
Vermont's Hulbert Outdoor Center Young Women's Leadership Expedition Whitewater Canoe

Canoe skills are among the fun challenges for girls participating on the YWLE.

Part I  of a series about the specifics of female leadership models and empowering our young women as leaders.

By Laura Beebe

For a teenage girl, the thought of going into the wilderness for weeks, for the first time, can bring about a flood of self-doubting thoughts.  “I’m not strong or fast enough, I can’t leave my friends, I won’t fit in and I’ll be alone, I’ll fail and people will see my mistakes/ will see the true me, I’m just not that type of person.” Females, and especially teenage girls can be incredibly skilled at talking themselves out of new and challenging situations, even if they are overly capable of being successful.  Outdoor education scholars Karen Warren and TA Loeffler identify this behavior in females as a misalignment between their perceived sense of competences  and actual competences.  In other words there can be a grave disparity between what girls think they can do and what they can actually do.  Sometimes, teenage girls can have unrealistic perceptions of who they are and who they think they should be, creating perpetual inhibitions from taking risks, actualizing their authentic self and claiming their strengths.

Several summers back I was leading a 30-day, all-girls backpacking course in the Rocky Mountains. Molly was a student of mine who was beautiful and bubbly, got straight As, was a varsity runner and an accomplished artist. On one of our first nights in the field we all huddled together in sleeping bags, under the thousands of stars in the open air. After the giggles and sugar rush from the night’s hot cocoa subsided, the girls began to talk about the challenges of their home life, the pressures to be “perfect” and the struggles to be their true selves. Molly turned on her flashlight and read us a card her mom had given to her before leaving for the trip. All it said was, “If I only had one wish in this world, it would be that you would see yourself the way that I see you.” Molly turned off her light and whispered into the dark silence “I don’t get it – I’m not the person she thinks I am.” (more…)

How Does My Child Benefit from Counselor Success Counseling at The Aloha Camps?

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Wednesday, October 20th, 2010

By Barnes Boffey, Lanakila Director

Success Counseling is a philosophy, a theory of behavior, and a set of skills for helping ourselves and other people grow and make effective choices. This short passage from an article written a few years ago explains a few basics which we can use to begin a longer discussion of success counseling and how it works. I would be happy to answer any questions about success counseling or its implementation in future blog entries. We will also be sharing more theory in the months ahead.

Vermont's Camp Lanakila For Boys Woodworking Instruction

Success Counseling means that counselors are prepared to help campers in many ways, every day.

Working as a camp counselor can be exciting, rewarding and enriching. But it’s hard work. Perhaps the most difficult task is dealing with a wide range of human behaviors. In most cases, counselors come to camp with some good natural instincts about working with children. But just as natural athletes need coaching and training to become consistent and disciplined, quality counseling must be developed through training and practice.

Quality camp counseling demands that counselors understand how the counseling process works as well as how its procedures fit into camp’s overall beliefs about the nature of human behavior and personal growth. Over the last 15 years at Lanakila and our two sister camps, Aloha and Aloha Hive, we have developed and refined a counseling model based on a comprehensive method of understanding human behavior. (more…)

Vermont Summer Camp Magic – What Makes The Aloha Camps So Special?

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Friday, October 8th, 2010

Aloha Hive campers in a magical treehouse.

A tree house is the location for magical overnights for girls at Hive.

Autumn in Fairlee, Vermont brings a different mood to the summer camp properties of Aloha, Hive and Lanakila. The long, hot days of July and August have become cool and bright, with frosty mornings and vividly-colored leaves.  The hillsides and waterfronts are mostly quiet. The summer of 2010 is now a memory for hundreds of campers, but the summer of 2011 is already a gleam in all of our collective eyes.  Although the canvas tents have been carefully folded and stored, the canoes, sailboats and kayaks moved indoors and special summer buildings buttoned up against the forthcoming winter, the magic of a summer at The Aloha Camps is still in the air. More significantly, the magic of summer camp for girls and boys continues in their imaginations as they settle into the rhythm of the school year, with its busy days of classes, athletic practices, music lessons and weekend extracurricular obligations.  (more…)

Creating Heroes, Creating Community, in the Vermont Woods at Hulbert Outdoor Center

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Monday, September 27th, 2010

Vermont's Hulbert Outdoor Center high ropes course

Crossroad Academy students feel comfortable taking risks in Hulbert Outdoor Center's School Program.

What difference can three days at the Hulbert Outdoor Center in Fairlee, VT make? For middle school students at Crossroads Academy in Lyme, New Hampshire, the answer is Enormous. Jessica Lahey, an English and Latin teacher at the school, sees the students’ experience in the School Program at Hulbert as a hero journey — three days that teach some of the school’s most important lessons. Lahey, other teachers, and the students themselves see those lessons take hold at Hulbert and last the entire school year.

We asked Jessica to share her thoughts from the school’s most recent stay at Hulbert. Her thoughtful essay follows:

A hero ventures forth from the world of common day into a region of supernatural wonder: fabulous forces are there encountered and a decisive victory is won: the hero comes back from this mysterious adventure with the power to bestow boons on his fellow man.

from The Hero with a Thousand Faces by Joseph Campbell (more…)

Housekeeping! Sharing Some 2010 Summer News That Got Away!

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Sunday, September 19th, 2010

The months of June, July and August passed in a warm, sunny blur this year.  Hot, summer days in Fairlee were filled with activity seven days a week, on all five Aloha Foundation campuses. Hundreds of staff and campers swelled Fairlee’s summer population and in the office, we  enjoyed the excitement that the camp season brought.  It is hard, however, to keep up with all the fun that goes on, and even more difficult at times to share the news with our fans.  Now that the tents are put away, the docks pulled and campers, counselors and staff alike back in school, the full time employees in Fairlee are able to catch their collective breath a little, before we begin the preparation for summer 2011 (yes, we are already thinking ahead!).

Before we leave the summer of 2010 behind, here are a few stories you might have missed.

Vermont National Guard families enjoy respite, recreation and relaxation at Ohana – and Ohana enjoys their company.

Vermont National Guard member enjoys time with daughter at Ohana Family Camp.

Vermont National Guard member cuddles his daughter at Ohana Family Camp.

Fifteen families of Vermont National Guard members currently deployed in Afghanistan – about 55 parents and children in all – took up residence at Ohana Family Camp from June 27th through July 2nd. They came from all over the state — Georgia, VT, way up in the NW corner to Bennington at the southern tip. Written words can’t portray the experience better than does this short video report that appeared in a television news broadcast on the CBS affiliate in Burlington, VT. Many donors contributed toward the $20,000 cost of this tuition-free week at Ohana for Guard member families, including $5,000 from Vermont National Guard Charitable Foundation.

Ohana Camp Vermont National Guard Letter from Bernie Sanders

Senator Sanders letter to The Aloha Foundation.

Vermont’s United States Senator Bernie Sanders wrote this to us, in part: Allow me, on behalf of a of not only Vermont but a grateful nation to thank [you] for providing a week of joy, fun and relaxation at Ohana Camp for Vermont National Guard family members, while their loved ones are serving overseas…I applaud the vision, commitment and compassion demonstrated by the Aloha Foundation…to reach out to these family members faced with lengthy separation…[and] feel certain that the memories of the week spent at Ohana Camp will help assure the families that there are many of us who care about them…and want to offer support and gratitude…Aloha! Congratulations on a job well done.

After the VNG week was over, an article in our local Valley News about the Ohana family camp week caught the eye of a Lyme, NH, philanthropist. The anonymous donor — not previously a contributor to the Foundation — has pledged $25,000 to support the entire cost of next year’s edition of the Guard program. In addition, the donor has offered to pay the way for any families left on the waiting list for this summer’s Guard Week who wish to participate in New Year’s Family Camp at Hulbert in December. (more…)

To Build a Fire

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Friday, August 27th, 2010
Success building a one log fire is a key to earning the rank of Vagabond at Aloha Camp.

Success building a one log fire is a key to earning the rank of Vagabond at Aloha Camp.

On a late July morning, sunny, with a cool breeze rising off Lake Morey, fifteen-year-old Sarah McGrath laid the first sticks in the center of a raised fire platform. She worked intently, placing lengths of wood in a neat four-square around a small pile of kindling. She stood back, considered, reached in and moved some of the pieces. Satisfied with what she saw, she took three long matches out of a box and set them in the grass next to her. They were the only matches she’d get.

She struck the first one. A yellow bud of fire rose where she touched the small flame to the kindling. She moved the match to another part of the pile and held it there, but the wood didn’t catch. The first flame burned down, the tiny flickers extinguished. She had two matches left.

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